Knowing When To Let Go: Relationship Edition

Talking Stage for Six Months. How?

To be honest, I don’t even know why I’m writing this. I can’t exactly say I know much about love, let alone relationships. The one and only relationship I’ve ever been in lasted three years, and it ended in October 2022.

Since then? It’s been a rollercoaster of realizing just how shallow-minded, infinitely ignorant, and downright stupid men can be.

Every time I think I’ve seen it all, I see something worse. Like wow, you people really think like this?

At this point, no amount of concealer can ever hide how tired I am of men.

On Talking Stages

Petition to ban talking stages. Because what exactly are we even talking about? The weather? Your trust issues? Be serious.

Talking stage for six months. How?

You know you’re not serious. I know you’re not serious. But somehow, we’re both still here pretending.

If you can’t figure out I’m a wicked girl in the first week, please wear your shoes and find the nearest exit.

I’ve had major character development during these single years though. I should give myself some credit.

But don’t get it twisted, I remain devoted to being a very wicked girl.

Letting Go

Now that I’ve gotten that off my chest, because yes, dragging men gives me peace, let’s talk about what I actually came here for: letting go.

I let my ex go. Technically, he broke up with me, but if we’re being real, I had already checked out mentally.

Most of my friends cursed me and called me a fool.

“How could you leave him?”

“After everything?”

“Who will be sending you money now?”

As per my parents and siblings are just... Christmas decorations?

But I didn’t really care about all that.

The truth is, not every relationship leads to marriage, and that’s perfectly fine. Not every guy you meet is the one.

Some relationships are just painful lessons, shaping you for the right person.

The thing is, I had already fallen out of love long before he ended it. Letting go was... easy. I was 70% gone already.

I didn’t cry.

Till today, I haven’t shed a tear.

Me. A certified crybaby.

But here’s the real tea:

Letting go is hard when you’re still deep in it.

When you still care.

When you want them in your life so badly, you can’t even imagine a day without them.

When they’ve been so etched into your daily routine that suddenly everything feels bland and empty without them in it.

When something funny happens and your first thought is to text them, only to remember, you can’t.

That’s when letting go becomes impossible.

You start checking their last seen every hour.

Their WhatsApp status.

Their new profile picture.

You scroll through their likes and comments on instagram like you’re the FBI.

You want to stop, but you can’t.

You start rationalizing your pain.

“Maybe I shouldn’t have let them go so easily.”

“Maybe I should’ve tried harder.”

Even when you know they’re not good for you.

Even when nothing about being with them brought you peace.

Even when being with them hurt you more than it healed you.

Letting go is hard. It’s so hard, and we don’t talk about it enough.

Whether relationship, situationship, or grey area as my babe

Ann Helen

rightly put it, it’s still painful.

People love to scream, “Block him and move on!”

“Just stop thinking about him and focus on yourself.”

As if it’s that simple.

As if it’s that easy to cut someone off and pretend they never existed.

Not for everyone.

Not even for wicked girls like us.

Telling yourself:

“I’m going to stop talking to this guy because I refuse to waste my time and energy on something that’s going nowhere”

That takes courage.

Because it’s always obvious when it’s going nowhere.

You see the red flags.

You ignore them.

He tells you how he cheated in his past.

How he double dated and triple dated before, but how you’re the only one he’s texting right now because he’s trying to be better.

And deep down you know the reason why he’s so focused on you is because he hasn’t found anyone else yet.

But you force yourself to believe otherwise.

He tells you all his past relationships have been toxic.

And you sit there thinking what? That you’re going to be the one to change him?

You can’t. And you need to let him go.

Knowing When To Let Go

Knowing when to let go is a survival skill.

Because in this world, it’s kill or be killed—and sometimes, love is the weapon.

You know it’s time to let go when:

• He starts replying hours later saying he was “busy” when he was actually wrapped up in the arms of text partner number 2.

• He starts saying “it’s not that deep” when you complain about things being weird between you two.

• He stops replying the memes and reels you send him on tiktok and instagram.

• You ask him what’s wrong and you can’t even get a straight answer anymore.

• You realize he’s emotionally unavailable and will never love you the way you deserve to be loved.

And that when he says things like:

• “Let’s just go with the flow”

• “Time will tell”

What he really means is:

• “I’m not interested in being in a serious relationship with you.”

• “I like you but not enough to date you.”

The harsh truth is, love makes us deaf to logic. And sometimes the only way to learn is the hard way...

But when you're finally ready to let go...

When you decide to choose peace over potential.

And clarity over confusion.

When you find the strength to choose your sanity, your freedom, and your self-worth.

Come back to this post.

You’re not alone. We’re in this together.

And if Selena Gomez could move on from Justin Beiber, trust me, you can let that man go too.

Thanks for reading my mini rant. If you’re still going to text him after this… well, good luck, I guess.

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See you next Monday, my loves.

Wishing you a peaceful, drama-free week (but if drama comes, may it at least be entertaining).

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