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Victoria Riordan's avatar

I agree with the overall message. I am a big believer in practice what you preach. I will mention for anyone that needs to hear it: The reality is, people CAN preach what they don't practice, whether it makes sense or not. Sometimes, we put a lot of energy into being frustrated that people don't treat others as well as they should. I'm not saying don't try to talk to them, but once you've done that a time or two, if they don't listen, they are probably not going to the next time. So do we want to put energy pushing on a brick wall? Or put that energy into supporting the people that person is trying to make feel small? If people that believe in the golden rule support each other, we leave the people spewing vitriol to yell into the void where no one is listening. That's something we CAN do even if we can't make that person stop.

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Lara's avatar

Hmm I see.

You’re right

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Abdullah's avatar

I'm proud of myself for my sense of self awareness and my ability to introspect instead of being defensive.

I for don turn B

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Lara's avatar

😂😂😂ThankGod for you

whatever you do in this life

Never be B

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Joyz  Usen's avatar

We all know a “B”

And they act weird

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Lara's avatar

Very weird lot

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Ann Helen's avatar

They are everywhere 😂😂😂

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Lara's avatar

I’m telling you😂

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Zəhra Üzeyirli's avatar

There's a lot of B's around 😭😭😭😭 HELPPPPPP

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Lara's avatar

😂😂sorryyyy

it was intentional 😂😭

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Odel Asseille's avatar

I’ve met a lot of B. Always pretending, condemning, criticizing. They know better what is good for everybody.

I think it’s because it’s easier to see the flaws of others before seeing ours.

I always considering others like mirrors for me. I don’t condemn, judge nor criticize, but use them as model to see my life and find my peace.

Don’t need to pretend, much less to preach others 😁

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Lara's avatar

Yeah preaching to people is unnecessary. If you must, and you can do it without sounding condescending, mean or demeaning, go for it.

But we all hope we don’t see you doing what you said you can “never” do. Because then you’d be the greater fool.

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Odel Asseille's avatar

And people don’t really listen to preachings

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Lara's avatar

Exactly

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Timi's avatar

Hiii lara, I just want to say that I love how you tailored this topic. It was super good. You have great storytelling skills

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Lara's avatar

Aww thank you,Timi.🥹❤️

Glad you love it!

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Pen Terrorist's avatar

B is really not alright 😂.

Take your flowers dear💐💐..you deserve it.♥️

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Lara's avatar

She’s cray cray😂

Thank youuu🥹❤️

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Mariya 😌🤍's avatar

B sef 😂😂😂

Please, preach louder!!!

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Lara's avatar

😂😂Bbbb

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Jemima's avatar

God bless youuuuuu!!

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Lara's avatar

Thank youu

Amen 😌

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Beloved's avatar

Practice what you preach. 💯

B's father must be really tired😂💔

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Lara's avatar

😂😂the man terrorized us that year.

Sometimes he’ll come and take her away in handcuffs.

We’ll beg and beg on her behalf

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MUBARAK's avatar

What did the rain do to you this morning?😂

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Lara's avatar

You see me inside rain today?

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MUBARAK's avatar

Your PPA nko?

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Lara's avatar

How did you know rain was falling in Ph

Aren’t you in Zamfara or something

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MUBARAK's avatar

I am in Lagos. Sorry, forgot you don't stay in Lagos.

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Lara's avatar

So comforting to know rain is falling there too. Thank you Jesus 😪🤲🏽

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MUBARAK's avatar

No be small thing.

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Mariya 😌🤍's avatar

I haven't been on Substack in a long time but I got your notification and ran here. Oya, let me go and read your post 🚶🏾‍♀️

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Lara's avatar

🤭🤭that’s the spirit

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Faveey's world 🙈's avatar

Coming from my emaillll!!!

Preach gurlll!! 💪(See what I did there? 😂)

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Karmyyy's avatar

Seen Bs, met Bs, and almost became a B. Thank God for growth.

Doing is never easy. But if you can't do, don't preach. But everybody wants to be the wise person.

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